Thursday, March 29, 2012
Here is a picture of Chinese orphans that I found on the internet. Because of security, I can not post pictures of the precious little ones we worked with this winter. They are cute, aren't they? Can you imagine what they go through on a day to day basis with no nurturing parent to provide them their basic social, tactile, and emotional needs? Please pray for our daughter. She is likely in her first year of life, when senses and connections are rapidly developing. She needs touch, movement, and attatchment to someone she trusts in order to have a healthy neurological and emotional life. Many of the millions of orphans in this world are not given that blessing.
Friday, March 23, 2012
We just got off the phone with our adoption specialist. She is wonderful! We talked for 1 1/2 hours about lots of important issues surrounding our adoption process. I feel like we can trust her to be on our side and do everything she can on her end to make these next 12+ months as smooth as possible. While we wait for our next interview, we have lots of homework to do. There are hours of seminars, modules, books, and arcticles to read and check off on before our dossier can be sent off in about six months. On the fun end, she told us we should be safe to start telling everyone. That means all of you will be reading this soon! Yay! No more secrets! I think our moms will be the happiest to hear this news. They are going crazy to get the cat out of the bag! I look at all the flowers that are blooming around our house: irises, tulips, lily of the valleys, dogwoods and cherry blossoms. Will our daughter be here to enjoy them this time next year? Will she be able to run and play in the mud with her big brothers? I hate unknowns, but can rest in the assurance that God is watching over her right now, answering our daily prayers to keep her safe and loved until she joins her forever family.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
We can finally announce the exciting news: "WE'RE PAPER PREGNANT!". I received the call yesterday, informing us we have been officially accepted into the China program with our agency! We have already been reading materials, gathering documents, and signing forms (31 pages worth last night alone!). Our first interview for our homestudy is just days away. We have also been sharing with parents and siblings. We don't know how far in the process to go before letting the rest of you out there know (ironic since I'm typing to all of you and you don't know it yet!) but we know the Lord will give us a peace when it's time. So...am I showing? Don't look at my stomach, look at my fingers and face. You'll see paper cuts and a glow (s0 the saying goes).
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
We have an agency and a country! After prayer, many questions on the phone, and discussion together, Kris and I have decided who will be assisting us in adding our first daughter to our family! At first, we were closed to adopting from China. The requirements, suspected corruption, the long wait we thought existed....they all didn't look appealing to us. After a month's worth of phone calls and emails, we discovered that China is actually the most open door for our family's specific limitations. What we thought were barriers actually are not. With three boys, we could not adopt domestically without many hoops and possibly a long wait. Most birth mothers want childless families to adopt their babies. With other countries, we found either high cost, multiple or long trips, long wait, risky investment, or limited availability of young girls. The open door is the Big Chicken (as our boys nicknamed it because it's in the shape of a big chicken). Adopting more than one child is not an option due to requirements our family can not meet, so we feel the Lord is guiding us to go one at a time. Our eagerness to adopt at least two children will have to stretch for years, but the wonderful thing about the program we chose is that we will have our first daughter in our home within 12 to 15 months! My heart is lighter now that we will be "paper pregnant" within a week (once our application is sent and approved for our agency). Woo Hoo!
Saturday, March 3, 2012
We're getting closer. I can't believe I can say that with certainty now! This week we finally were handed some optimism. There may be a different plan now. Originally we wanted at least two girls at one time, but now we may have to decide that the Lord will give us one at a time. This may be best for our family to adjust, but it won't be better for our eager hearts to complete our family! We have talked with 10 different agencies, and surfed the web to look at probably a dozen more. Finding two little girls from the same country is nearly impossible to do within a reasonable amount of time, unless we adopted from some countries we aren't completely comfortable with and agencies we haven't had a good impression of yet. Simply said, God hasn't given us a peace about it. We have one country singled out as the best option after looking closely at all the options and requirements. If we do not pick this country, chances are we will adopt domestically. The only requirement is that she is not a Caucasian American! Who knows, we may end up doing both over the course of a few years! Several more phone calls are in order for this next week, and then we may know. I'm getting excited about finally being "pregnant"! Kris and I surveyed the bedroom last night and discussed how we would fit them. I still can't wrap my mind around having pink and/or purple in there, but there is time for the idea to sink in. I pray daily for our girls, that God would protect them, provide for their needs, and send loving hands to hold them and love them until Mommy and Daddy come to take them home.